You are a born fighter. You fight against the nature, people, circumstances and finally yourself. Well… yes! Fight is an inevitable part of your life though you never accept the fact. You don’t even want to think about struggling. What all you want in your life is peace. And knowing or unknowingly you have built some assumptions in your mind – fight will only bring sorrows and pain in life. Being happy is equal to being away from all the struggles. Just forget that you are a fighter … and ….. Well…. What’s next? Can you think of your life without struggle? Has anyone been able to define peace without fighting?
You are prone to this everyday battle scene. You are forced to do the thing which you don’t wish to and that’s where your battle starts. Your mind resists…. Struggles against the reality …wishes to fly on the feathery wings of dreams…. But one fine jerk and boom …You are back to the battleground. Just as this fight rule, nature has created some similar rules for us.

1. Fight till you die.
2. Happiness is interval.
3. You are not supposed to win.
4. If you win, you will have to face even worse situations.
5. You will never feel happy. If you are happy with yourself and your life, you will be sad for someone else in this world.
6. Don’t complain. It is absolutely useless.

Yes! That’s nature. And no matter how you try you can’t fool the nature.
Now the question is whether to get depressed by these facts or accept them. Another fact is somewhere deep inside in your mind you have accepted them; it is just that you don’t want to believe that you have surrendered.
Well enough of discussing the rules and laws. Let’s find the answer for “whether fighting is equal to pains and pains are equal to sorrows? Do we seek for sorrows in our life? If not, then how to be happy?”
hmm…. How to be happy? Am I eligible to answer this question? Am I happy? How can I speak about something which I don’t know! I know I am not ‘really’ happy with my current life but I am trying hard (struggling) to be happy and have realized few solutions over this universal problem.
Solution is quite simple. We normally call it ‘selective filtering’. In simple words, don’t give damn to the things that are none of your concern. We generally do this in everyday life. The only thing that you have to do is selectively filter out the feelings that make you sad. Yes, this too is a kind of struggle as your mind will find it quite hard to go against its natural behavior. But if you succeed to follow this, filtering will be set as default nature of your mind. And one fine morning you will find that you no more need to struggle while filtering your sorrows. Of course this process will take some time and fighting against your own mind is not a trivial job.
One more method could be enjoying your own pains. Yeah, by being a sadist. When we know that something is inevitable and we cannot change it then the simplest way is to enjoy it.
In short, change your attitude. It was never about the intensity of pains or the difficulty level of fights. It was always about how you accept and deal with the situations. And this theory is surely not new to you.